HELLO AND GOODBYE -TRANSITIONS FOR CHANGE

Some things in life are obviously difficult. Saying goodbye is one of them. The magnitude of a “goodbye” certainly varies, but the meaning is always the same: THE END. Whether it’s ending a love relationship, leaving behind friends due to changing schools/jobs/homes, saying goodbye to a career dream that didn’t quite turn out the way you wanted it to or, the ultimate goodbye, someone you love dying, As painful as these experiences are, they are essential to our growth and development. The vitality of our lives is predicated on new people, events, stimulation and challenges periodically occurring. Without goodbyes we can never have hellos. What keeps people from initiating the goodbyes they have control over (e.g. relationships) is a tendency to overestimate the amount of time that they will feel bad. Fortunately, the wisdom in the unconscious is hardwired to reestablish emotional balance as quickly as possible. Incorporating this idea into your map of experience allows one to begin looking at the idea of “quality” risk taking. Is it time to get out of that relationship or job that is stale or lifeless? Are there patterns of behavior that are not useful or productive that you know it’s time to say goodbye to? Are you ready to say hello to skills you want to learn or places you want to see. Hello and goodbye reflect transitions, and it’s at these moments in time when change is most available to us.

So perhaps.....as you think about that goodbye..........you know the one that has popped up..from time to time........you can begin to think about it differently.......more confidently.........realizing that........deep down inside..........way....way ...down inside yourself.......are resources that you've forgotten you had........or maybe even never new that you had......but they are there .......and when ......you are ready to make that change.......say that goodbye......that power will float straight up into your consciousness......and when it does.......you'll be ready to use it.